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Does marriage counseling really work? Can marriages be saved?

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Marriage Counseling: Does your marriage need improvement?

Marriage Counseling

As a psychotherapist and relationship coach who provides marriage counseling to couples in Plantation FL 33317 and the surrounding cities of Weston 33331 , Sunrise 33326, Davie 33324 among others, my clients often want to know if marriage counseling works, if their marriages can be saved. That’s a great question!

How can you know if your marriage can be saved, and if you can feel happy with your spouse again?

Well, the good news is that most marriages can be saved. But saving a marriage for the sake of saving it isn’t my goal. My goal is to help you transform your marriage into a happy, fulfilling one! Sometimes, it’s true that a marriage can’t be saved. For example, if there is physical abuse, or if your spouse has a drug addiction and refuses to get treatment, or if you are with someone who cheats repeatedly. In those cases, it can be almost impossible to transform the marriage. But, that’s not the case with most marriages. No matter how far off track they’ve gotten, with the right guidance and a willingness to want to have a great marriage, most marriages can be transformed into loving, happy relationships again.

The bad news is that it won’t happen magically or overnight, and it will require you to learn new things, try new approaches and grow as a person. But that, in my book, is a pretty cool thing! Because personal growth will increase your own individual happiness. So, you win either way.

Why should you try to save your marriage?

Besides the fact that it’s the right thing to do because you made that “til death do us part” promise, if you transform your marriage you will likely be happier, be healthier, live longer, and even be richer! Yep, studies have shown that people with relatively happy marriages score better on indicators on mental health, physical health, and live longer. They even retire with more money! That’s because good relationships enhance who we are and makes us better.

No matter how difficult your marriage is right now, and even if you feel you’ve tried everything, a skilled marriage counselor can help. Good marriage counselors will help you shift the dynamic you and your spouse have been in for years, and will guide you on the path to re-creating your relationship.

But what if your spouse doesn’t want to work on the marriage or go to marriage counseling?

You can still transform your marriage!

Listen to therapist Michelle Weiner-Davis explain how in this video:

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8 Responses to Does marriage counseling really work? Can marriages be saved?

  1. Marriage Counsellor November 11, 2012 at 9:18 pm #

    I agree with your goal.Transforming a marriage into a happy and fulfilling one is the right thing to do.One must be patient to see the results.It is best to look and research for the best marriage counselor to help.Thanks for the video.I learned a lot.

  2. admin November 13, 2012 at 11:03 am #

    You’re welcome! Thanks for the feedback. Glad you enjoyed the video! And I agree completely that patience is important and often spouses give up too soon before they can really benefit from marriage counseling. -Dr. Chantal

  3. Cara Rogers March 15, 2013 at 10:41 am #

    I enjoyed this article, I am looking to work on my marriage and I really have come to a “is there anything to save anymore” point. I know I want to and will continue to try, but its hard when one sided. I have started looking for things I can do without the help of professionals, but just in my everyday life to “fix” things. Thanks for your article.

    • admin March 26, 2013 at 6:48 pm #

      Thanks for your feedback Cara! I’m glad you enjoyed the article. Here are 3 books that can really help you improve your marriage: “Secrets of Happily Married Women” by Scott Haltzman, “The 5 Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, and “The 30 Secrets of Happily Married Couples” by Paul Coleman. And when you’re ready to get some one-on-one help, I offer relationship coaching via Skype. -Dr.Chantal

  4. Kesha January 25, 2014 at 9:12 pm #

    Hi, this s great article. I’m in a situation now where my spouse for don’t want to try anymore. It’s very hard and it hurts. I sent this article to him so I pray he would give it a try for counseling because I would hate to lose him because he is such a special person and we kniw our marriage can be so much more with God and the right person to help us.

    • admin February 28, 2014 at 6:10 pm #

      I hope things work out for you Kesha. There’s a couple of great books you can read that help guide you when you are the only one trying to save your marriage. They are Divorce Busting by Michelle Weiner-Davis and The Love Dare by Alex and Stephen Kendrick. Hope this helps! – Dr.Chantal

  5. Marriage counseling works but it also requires some efforts made by the couple. Thanks for sharing such a nice post!

    • drchantalgagnon August 31, 2016 at 3:38 pm #

      My pleasure. Glad you enjoyed it! -Dr. Chantal

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