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Anger: Therapy for Anger Management

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Therapy for Anger Management

Dealing with Anger

Dealing with anger can be difficult and hurtful both for the person who has a problem with anger, and for those around them. Anger is an intense emotion that often leads the angry person feeling helpless, misunderstood, and alone. That may surprise you because most people perceive individuals who have an anger problem as strong and dominant, not helpless and vulnerable. In fact, they can be both. A part of their personality may be healthy and strong, yet in certain circumstances they are easily hurt emotionally, feel unimportant or inadequate, or are just generally impatient people. This can all lead to anger.

Anger in itself is a totally normal emotion! But expressed in unhealthy ways (whether explosive anger or passive aggressiveness), it leaves everyone feeling hurt and exhausted.

That’s where anger management therapy can help. Therapy for anger can help you learn how to control anger and channel it in appropriate, productive ways. And if you live with, parent, or work for someone who has difficulty with anger management, psychotherapy can help you too! It can help you learn effective ways to respond to anger without damaging relationships.


Psychotherapy for Anger vs Anger Management Classes

Two major differences between psychotherapy for anger and anger management classes are that 1) classes are of limited duration, usually a few weeks, and tend not to address the cause of your anger, and 2) anger management classes are not customized to your specific needs and situation. For example, it’s common for men who were physically, emotionally, or sexually abused as children to have anger problems. It’s also common for women with borderline personality disorder to express anger inappropriately in romantic relationships.

In both of these examples, individual psychotherapy will help heal the underlying wounds that are giving rise to the anger. That’s something you won’t get in anger management classes. You if you been asked to take anger management classes, absolutely go! You’ll learn lots of useful strategies for anger management. But it may not be enough on it’s own; individual psychotherapy for anger may be an important addition to your overall success and recovery.

Strategies for Anger Management – Learning How to Control Anger

Here are 3 quick steps for learning to control your anger:

1) Learn the physical signs of anger, and begin to recognize them in yourself. Once you notice that you are becoming angry, if possible, remove yourself from the situation: go for a drive, take an early lunch at work, excuse yourself to go to the bathroom if that’s the only option.

2) Whenever you are angry, it’s because either you feel hurt in some way or something you want or are trying to accomplish is being blocked in some way. So, while you are away from the situation on your “break”, try to figure out what that is. What is the need or hurt feeling that is underneath your anger?

3) Think of some healthy ways to meet that need or express your hurt feelings. Make a list! Think of as many different ways as you can. Then, look at each one and find the ones that will  help you achieve your goal, without being mean to, or hurting others.

Remember, anger hurts you more than anyone else. It’s like drinking poison, and expecting the other person to get sick!

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3 Responses to Anger: Therapy for Anger Management

  1. Jo-Ann Williamson August 8, 2015 at 3:37 pm #

    I do not anger easily… but when I do it is very quick and hard and does not leave me much room for perspective. I usually hurt myself (moving too fast, a fall, a cut, slammed finger, etc.) or do something really stupid that I know better not to. Just did 1,400 dollard damage to my car this morning running over a curb in an empty parking lot WHILE TALKING ON THE CELL PHONE! I know better. Preach about it all the time…I think I need help. Enough with the cuts and bruises and unnecessary car repair bills. Any suggestions.

    • Chantal Gagnon August 18, 2015 at 10:57 am #

      Hi Jo-Ann,
      Thank you for taking the time to comment. Here are three suggestions to get you started:

      1) Begin working with a therapist who can help you learn your anger triggers and strategies to slow your reactions down in those moments;
      2) What you are describing seem closer to rage than anger. This book may help you identify the type of rage you have, which in turn will also help inform your therapy. Rage: A Step-by-Step Guide to Overcoming Explosive Anger by Ronald Potter-Efron MSW PhD
      3) Meditate 10 minutes every day (you’ll eventually increase the time). The 10-minute sitting meditation from the John Kabat-Zinn app or CD (series 2) is a good place to start.

      Good Luck!

  2. Dealing with Anger December 16, 2015 at 1:12 am #

    Very good and informative article, thanks for this posting.

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